Dear Babygirls,
It really doesn’t matter if you find a football player to love you.
It really doesn’t matter if you’re the homecoming queen.
What matters most of all, is that you are whole, and you are in tune with your body, and your wisdom, and your knowing, and you believe in your inherent worth as a human being.
The other night I watched the SuperBowl and there was this woman high up—so high up in the stands. She stood with such composure, her hands resting on a rail, and it is the way a queen stands. Her blonde hair fell around her, and she had a laser focus on the field.
Red lips.
That’s who runs things, just so you know.
People on the down-low don’t like those in power and authority. People get mad at not having the same thing those composed, straight-backed women have.
In centuries before, people just created stories and hanged those ladies up, and cut off their heads, and burned ‘em.
In centuries now, they tweet tweet.
So, babygirls, don’t be afraid of your light, and do know that allowing it to shine is going to bring some moths to the flame. There are a lot of moths around. Sometimes, it seems there is an infestation of moths in this world. They hang out on social media.
Just keep going anyway.
Tori Amos says we need to out-create.
So, create.
Create from a place of your own self-worth, the depth and richness of love and the power of healing in this world—and not from a place of anger and vice.
I love this video from Taylor Swift for “Fortnight.” Do you know she also directs a lot of her videos, and she directed this one, too?
What Fortnight does is pull from the silent film era and the witch archetype in history—which is alongside the hysteric, which is alongside the mentally ill woman, which is alongside the feminine romantic and the feminine lover.
Unfortunately, many women don’t know how to embody their wholeness, and we have a society that doesn’t give us much room to do so. To be in our feminine, we need to be receptive and open, which means we allow vulnerability. But we can only be in our feminine when there is trust that we will be cherished and honored, and this world hasn’t done such a good job of cherishing and honoring women. Instead, there is a misogynistic root—like a scripture that misreads Eve—which suggests a woman is inherently going to lead us astray from our divine knowing, away from from Eden. People are tortured by this junky way of looking at feminine and masculine without even knowing they are tortured by it—it is just a faulty wire in the collective neuro-system.
Sophia Wisdom is about navigating these shadows, this faulty wiring, and coming out on the other side with awareness of light and dark, letting the shadow be a passage through which healing eventually comes.
That shadow we need to face is the human tendency toward violence and destruction of others, and why, and for whom, and for what cause.
The sacred spiritual warriors know that hatred and abominations toward dignity of life is not the answer. And yet, those who wish to convince you with their evil potions still exist.
Look in people’s eyes, darling, to see who they are. And still, it is not in the eyes, but from the heart, where truth springs. If someone’s heart has malice and vicious tendencies, no matter of truth or love or clarity will ever satisfy that person to act with kindness or regard.
If someone’s heart has love? The whole world conforms to such majesty.
So how does one’s heart heal?
Will. Someone has to want the healing.
Evil and hatred is alluring, contagious.
Why else would it take so long to end slavery in the United States? Why else would one war end, and another war crop up?
Watch the feminine archetype in this music video, this mini-film, and let it sink in. Watch how you, yourself behave, with a little more distance.
Who do you run toward, and who do you run away from? Pay attention.
Pay close attention, and breathe, and look closely at your heart each day, my sweetness.
(When I showed this video to high school students in one class, the girls said they felt so much love, and the boys said they felt scared and uncomfortable. Interesting, huh?)
Love and hugs,
Ms. Wonderful